More Advice from Antebi's "Secrets"

The book, "The Real Secrets Women Only Whisper" has 11 chapters beginning with "Friends and Enemies" and ending with "Beauty and Aging." Antebi's chapter on marriage is excellent. I can't say the same for her chapter on sex. A warning, "Keep This Book Away from Men!" decorates the front cover.

Here is more of her sage advice:

"It's not the size of the house that will make you happy but the love in the home."

"If you sell your soul when you're young, you'll pay the price when you are old."

"Couples who go to pre-marital counseling are thirty percent less likely to be divorced than those who don't."

"If you act like a lady and look like a lady, you are more likely to be treated like a lady."

For a good read, ladies, check out this book. You will have a lot of laughs and learn at the same time.

Relationship Advice by Donna Estes Antebi

Author Donna Estes Antebi chose an intriguing title for her book, "The Real Secrets Women Only Whisper". The book contains gems like this:

"It continues to be a man's world in many ways. You need to know it, understand it, and find a way to make it work for you."

"It's not difficult to convince men to leave when the going gets rough, so don't push your limits."

"If you don't want to marry a bartender, then don't sleep with bartenders!"

"Sex has a way of disconnecting the brains from the hearts of even the most intelligent women."

"Don't live with a man unless you plan on marrying him. It's as simple as that."

Reading this book, like watching old movies, glaringly exposes the tremendous change in values that has occurred in my lifetime. Perhaps it has become increasingly difficult to develop soul mate relationships. For more about this interesting book check my next blog.

Relationship According to Morrie

For a reminder of the importance of setting stellar priorities in relationship, check out the movie,"Tuesdays with Morrie." The movie is based on Mitch Alborn's best-selling book.

The story is about Alborn's reconnecting with a beloved professor, Morrie Schwartz, who has been diagnosed with Lou Gehrig's Disease. After seeing this upbeat story you will never forget the importance of prioritizing relationship. Morrie valued life and showed how to live it fully. A great story and a great lesson in relationship.

Who Do You Hang Out With?

You can't choose your family, but you can choose your friends. If you want a long-term soul mate relationship, choose your friends thoughtfully. I read a study today which said divorce goes up 75% if those around you are getting divorced.

It makes me wonder how influential are movies and other media we see? What causes a change in values? I watched my granddaughters play with their dolls this week. They were saying, "These two are sisters. This one is their step-father's daughter from his first wife so she is their step-sister. This one is their half-sister born after their mother married their step-father. My granddaughters are 9 and 11 years old. Their parents are not divorced, but they have friends in the neighborhood whose parents are. I have heard other children play divorce.

Is this a reflection on changed social values and expectations? Will children who play divorce realize that to reap the joy of long-term relationship means commitment and hard work? Will they fantasize soul mate relationships that will elude them?