If Your Partner Doesn't Talk to You

Are you one of those many people who complain that your partner doesn't talk to you? A client of mine asked her husband, "If you had it to do over again, would you do the same thing?" She expected him to say, "Yes, of course. I could never live without you." Instead he said thoughtfully, "I don't know."

His answer hurt her. "I wouldn't change a thing," she said. "I feel like he doesn't love me." He was surprised. "I was thinking it would have been better if I had waited until I was more financially secure," he said.

How sensitive are you? Are you so fragile that your partner is afraid to share feelings with you? If you want a truly soul mate experience, you must be willing to be tough enough to hear feelings without fear.

Anne Hathaway Ends a Relationship

Anne Hathaway ended a 4 year relationship with Raffaello Follieri in June of 2008 when she learned his charitable foundation was under investigation. Later he was sentenced to prison for 4 and a half years.

In an interview with Barbara Walters following the Academy Awards, Anne said, "Loving is not just giving. It is also receiving."

Are you able to receive as well as give? Anne shared an important truth. A good relationship requires give and take and cannot be one sided and still thrive.

Some Celebrities Who Are Soul Mates

George and Laura Bush
Barrack and Michelle Obama
Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson
Hugh Jackman and Deborra-Lee Furness

In the February 22nd Parade Magazine Tom Hanks says, "The woman I share my life with has taught me every day just what love is." He went on to call the Oscars a great date. When he looked at Rita for confirmation she said, "Any time I'm spending a night with you, it's fantastic, honey." A bit of bantering, but I bet she meant it.

Hugh Jackman told Barbara Walters Following the Academy Awards that his wife Deborra-Lee Furness is "supportive of everything I do. I am madly in love with her more and more each day."

This is a short list based on what I have seen and read. Look around. Make a list of your own and see how difficult it is to find true soul mates. Many people, like Mariah Carey, claim to be soul mates. I hope they are right and that their closeness endures.

Some Celebrity Break-ups--2008

Shania Twain and Robert Lange------------married 14 years
Kate and Alex Walsh----------------------married 15 months
Al and Star Ryenolds---------------------married 3 years
Liv Tyler and Royston Langdon------------married 5 years
Marsha and Robin Williams----------------married 19 years
Carey and Pink Hart----------------------married 2 years
Tea Leoni and David Duchovny-------------married 11 years
Madonna and Guy Richie-------------------married 7 years

Relationship is difficult for everyone. No exceptions. It must be even more difficult for celebrities. Few people manage fame well. If you want to become soulmates, you have to learn how to be one. That takes commitment and desire. That is what this blog is all about.

Some Celebrity Weddings--2008

Katherine McPhee and Nick Cokas------Feb. 2 California
Carla Bruni and Nicolas Sarkazy------Feb. 2 France
Beyonce' Knowles and Jay-Z-----------April 4 New York
Eli Manning and Abby McGrew----------April 19 Mexico
Tia Mowry and Cory Hardrict----------April 20 California
Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon---------April 30 Bahamas
Jenna Bush and Henry Hager-----------May 10 Texas
Ashlee Simpson and Pete Wentz--------May 17 California
Loni Anderson and Bob Flick----------May 17 California
Charlie Sheen and Brooke Mueller-----May 30 California
Tim Baland and Monique Idlett--------June 10 Virginia
Sara Evans and Jay Barker------------June 14 Tennessee
Ethan Hawke and Ryan Shawhughes------June New York
Chris Evert and Greg Norman----------June 28 Bahamas
Olivia Newton-John and John Easterling June 28 Florida
Jewel and Ty Murray------------------August 7 Bahamas
Deborah Livi and James Gandolfini----August 30 Hawaii
Scarlett Johansson and Ryan Reynolds-September 27 Vancouver Island
Beverly Mitchell and Michael Cameron October 1 Italy
Picabo Street and John Reeser--------October 25 Alabama
John Rich and Joan Bush--------------December 6 Nashville
Tommy Hilfiger and Dee Ocleppo-------December 12 Connecticut

It will be interesting to see how many of these celebrity newlyweds go on to become soul mates. Mariah Carey told People Magazine, "We really do feel we are soulmates." It is too early to know.

Finding A Blog

I thought it would be fun to go to Anne Hathaway's site and see if I could find my blog about Anne and Kate Hudson. I finally found it on page 31 under "search blogs". I had no idea one person could have so much written about them in so little time. I wonder what page my blog is on at Kate Hudson's site. Maybe some day I will look. Not today! I will let you know. I am afraid they are listed in the order of someone's opinion about their importance. Ouch!

George W. Bush's Biggest Success

According to People Magazine, publicly Laura Bush denies that she and George are bothered by plunging public opinion. And his critics? "Those people don't know George," she says.

"George and I have both worked hard to make our relationship strong," says the former First Lady. "We allowed each other to grow in ways that neither of us would have guessed." (Ladies' Home Journal--Feb. 2002) George called his decision to marry Laura "The best decision I ever made."

"George and Laura have unwavering love for one another that's grounded in a deep and abiding faith," says a close friend. Clearly, they have become soul mates in spite of very different personalities and backgrounds. Their relationship is George W. Bush's biggest most important success.