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Saturday, August 22, 2015

Midlife and Marriage

Have you reached your forties and fifties? You feel smug and safe because you are still married? Be careful.  You are beginning to feel your age. You have become conscious of age categories when running a marathon or participating in a bicycle race. You have to watch what you eat. For the first time you discover you have gained weight. It happened to me when we had just returned from a week long backpack trip.

Your children are grown. Your bucket list may have too few things crossed off. You may be looking at new sports cars or a trip to Australia. Maybe you are thinking of going back to college. When you read about a big road project that will be completed in 2045, you calculate if you should get excited about that. You begin to wonder if you have passed the midpoint of your life. Do you have less time to live than the time you have already lived?

                       YOU ARE FREE
Be mindful. Renew priorities.
This is a good time to take a look at what you want for the rest of your life. Three things are important.
Number One.  Prioritize your faith in God.What is your purpose? What do you want to accomplish by the end of your life? What are your gifts and talents? What brings you joy?
Number Two.  Prioritize your marriage. How connected are you to your mate? What do you enjoy about each other? Have you shared each other's stories? Is there more to discover? Do you share things on your bucket lists? Make time for each other. Renew the kind of love you showed each other when you were courting. You are alone again with each other. Flirt. Play. Enjoy. Support, Discover.
Number Three.  Support your family. Stay in touch. Promote family reunions. Get together when you can. Encourage. Love. Embrace.  

If you do these things, you will become soul mates and adore each other after 60 years of marriage.