Friday, March 7, 2008
We learn to speak and to listen as children growing up in all kinds of separate worlds.
Differences abound even if we speak the same language. Thousands of books have been written about communication and still one of the most difficult tasks of soul mates is to understand each other. The goal is understanding. Agreement is not essential.
One of the biggest differences couples have to overcome is what Deborah Tanner, linguistic expert, calls "genderlects." It simply means men and women learn different ways of speaking and hearing. Remember that when you feel frustrated trying to talk or listen to your soul mate.
Talking and listening skills lead to understanding. Read my book, "Becoming Soul Mates" to find out more.